Life Lesson #2 – What do you NOT want?

A few years ago, I used to have a really hard time answering the question: What do I really want?

When you are feeling overwhelmed with everything going on, you likely need some space to think before you can answer a question like that.

Or maybe you just can’t see all that is possible for you YET.

BUT I bet you know what you DON’T want!

I could definitely answer that question back then . . .

I did not want to work evenings and weekends.

I did not want to be worrying about work when I was at the kid’s swimming lessons.

I did not want to be in meetings all day long or that I thought were a waste of time.

I did not want to feel like I was barely keeping up.

I did not want to be yelling at my kids.

I did not want to be fighting with my husband.

I did not want to feel like crap most days and have no energy left in the evenings.

I did not want to settle for the status quo.

THE THING IS, what you want is on the other side of what you don’t want!

I did want to have a healthy balance between my work and personal life.

I did want to be present and enjoy the moment.

I did want more free space in my calendar to focus on important work and think.

I did want to contribute in a deep way with my team and organization.

I did want to be calm and connected with my kids.

I did want to have a strong relationship with my husband.

I did want to feel good.

I did want to make a change and figure it out.

This question still helps guide me today.

So if you have a hard time answering the question what do you really want, how about you try asking the question:

What do you NOT want?

The truth of what you really want lies there for you.

All my best, 

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Stacey L. Olson is a Leadership and Certified Positive Psychology Coach, has 15 years of corporate experience and has gone through her own transformational change from burning out to balanced in life while performing at a high level (both in her corporate career and own business). She works with professionals who want to work less, live more and be their best even with all the demands, high expectations and messiness of everyday life. Stacey is the founder of The Balanced Leader™ program and offers executive and leadership coaching, workshops, and speaking.