Life Lesson #4 – You’re probably not going to want to do it

I always have ideas floating around in my mind.

Lessons I’ve learned, questions to ask, perspectives to share.

But as soon as I decided to share more of those lessons on social media and with you . . . my mind went blank.

I felt like I had nothing to say.

And when I did think of an idea, the unhelpful thoughts popped up . . .

It’s not valuable enough.

I don’t know how to say it.

Someone has something better to say.

It’s too much. It’s not enough.

It’s too much me. It’s not enough me.

Ever find yourself in this unhelpful loop?

When you want to speak up in a meeting, but you hold back.

When you know you need to have a conversation, but you avoid it.

When you want to ask a question, but tell yourself it’s silly.

When you want to take a stand for what’s right, but you talk yourself out of it.

When you know what you want, but you don’t take even the small steps to get there.

The thing is, anything important and meaningful to you . . .

That is uncomfortable . . .

That puts you out there . . .

That carries the risk that someone might not like it or you might “get it wrong” . . .

You probably won’t want to do it at some point. Expect it. Don’t let it stop you.

This has been an important lesson I’ve learned over the years (and still learning).

Because every time you hold back, you reinforce the fear.

And every time you go for it, you build courage and confidence.

So, where are you holding back?

Change the story in your mind.

Be brave and take the action.

Even if you resist or hesitate.

Our biggest growth lies in these small moments.

All my best, 

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Stacey L. Olson is a Leadership and Certified Positive Psychology Coach, has 15 years of corporate experience and has gone through her own transformational change from burning out to balanced in life while performing at a high level (both in her corporate career and own business). She works with professionals who want to work less, live more and be their best even with all the demands, high expectations and messiness of everyday life. Stacey is the founder of The Balanced Leader™ program and offers executive and leadership coaching, workshops, and speaking.